As you go through life, you can have monumental things happen. Such as getting a degree, having a family, buying a house, changing the world in one way or an other. I have done none of that, I wonder if I have made a mistake with the way I have lived my live?
I hope not. I may not of followed the most traditional paths in life, but it has been a very interesting path.
I just recently went to my 30th high school reunion. Truth be told, I never want to attend another reunion again n my life time. It was nice to see some of my classmates again and some, not so much. We walked in the door of the event and the first words out of my mouth were; Who the fuck are all these old people and is there a cold Stella in this joint? After 30 years, what amazed me was that the cliques still existed. Jocks with jocks, once pretty, popular girls hanging together like a group of old cheer-leaders and a third rate car show. Come on, really?
I did my very best to be on my best behavior and learn about what they all have done with their lives. Some a lot and some… not so much. And that is OK.
Remember when you were a kid and you went to your friends house for dinner? There was the mom, super nice, really plain and you would never ever imagine that she had sex that created your friend! Your friend had to be adopted because she would NEVER do anything like that. Then there is the dad. Overweight, out of date clothes and cranking Journey in the car. These are most my classmates. Married, two kids, house in the burbs, Ok income, retirement package, Old Chicago, you know, living the American dream. Good for them.
I never saw myself in that way. I want to be very clear about this, it is not like I am the most successful, most worldly, most eccentric or most talented guy from my class.I am not what one would call- the exception either. But what I am, is a guy that made different choices that led me down a much different path. (and maybe to the disapproval of my friends as well, who knows?)
I am getting ready to hit a landmark birthday. Like everyone that is ready to roll out of their 40′s you start to take inventory. Have I done enough? Did I waste time? have I done any good? I don’t know, I think I’m just a late bloomer…
But back to the reunion. I was listening to everyones story, with great interest I might add. I was also getting asked myself about my life. I really don’t like to talk about it, not because I have nothing to say, but I have TOO much to say. It might come off as bragging or out-right lies if you didn’t know me. So I kept my answers quick and simple;
“So Glenn, What have you been up to the last 30 years?”
“Not much, hanging out I guess..”
“So I heard your a Chef?”
“Ya, I cook.”
“and you live is Aspen?”
“ it’s nice, I have been there for 20 or so years”
“Do you know anyone famous?”
“I saw on Facebook you have cats…”
I always want out of these kind of conversations, I not good at them. I would love to say that “I do” and “I have” and “I did” but it never feels right to me.
I guess the point of this is that find the path that you feel suites you best. I may not be rich with all the trappings but I am loaded with amazing friends, with equally amazing stories. Be it a personal show from Cy Curin of the fix, Living in New Zealand, cooking with Jacque Pepin or having dinner with Tom Ford in Carbondale. My life is weird, you see what I mean, sounds like I’m bragging or name dropping and I hate it.
So if you are around some of your old friends you haven’t seen in a long time, be prepared to hear anything, Also, god bless your friends moms, they could be a freind you grew up with I really don’t want to know who or what they have done.